Partner snoring has destroyed my mental health
We have only been together 4 years. He refuses for us to sleep separately. He’s been for a sleep study he doesn’t have sleep apnea. He’s not over weight. He’s tried steroids, medication and nasal sprays nothing works.
He doesn’t let me touch him or move him when he sleeps and if I do he screams at me.
I haven’t slept properly in 4 years. Recently he went on holiday for 5 days and they were the most mentally sane I’ve felt in 4 years. It was the best 5 days of my whole life, I actually woke up happy.
I can’t believe I will spend the rest of my life in misery and exhaustion. I know it’s easy for people to give me different sleeping options, but people don’t understand how or why they’re not available to me.
Please believe me if I could sleep elsewhere then I would.
I’ve had anxiety and mental health issues for 7 years but it’s gotten a lot worse without sleep. I’m also constantly nauseous at work because my eyes are fighting to stay awake.
I’m so sad. I’m so sad that it doesn’t matter to him too. I’m so sad that’s it’s okay for him to wake me up every single hour of the night, but if I nudged him whilst going to the toilet I would be screamed at. I’m so sad that only his sleep matters.
Netizens’ comments
- A decent amount of sleep is vital to our wellbeing, and sleep deprivation is a known torture method.
You DON’T need to spend the rest of your life in misery and exhaustion. What you DO need to do is leave this man if he thinks you getting sufficient sleep isn’t important. - …I mean, you don’t HAVE to spend the rest of your life in misery and exhaustion. I certainly wouldn’t want to spend my entire life with a partner who screams at me and refuses to “let” me sleep in another room (why tf do you need his permission? what is he going to do to you if you just get out of bed and sleep on the couch? scream some more?)
- Sorry you’re sacrificing your mental/physical health to this issue. Have you considered wearing noise cancelling earmuffs/headbands suitable for sleep?
- The snoring isn’t the problem, it’s the person behind the snoring.