My marriage has been going through some rough times lately.
My wife used to trust me and trust was a cornerstone of our relationship. But lately, she has been suspicious of me and it’s causing a rift between us.
It all started a few months ago when I stopped sleeping with her. It wasn’t because I didn’t find her attractive or because I had lost interest in her. It was because I was turned off that she keeps think badly about me.
Always asking if I got a woman outside, I joked with her and said “yeah yeah, I got 6 dozens outside”.
At first, my wife thought that I had lost interest in her and started to get very paranoid. She would question me all the time and even accuse me of having an affair. I tried to explain to her that I was only trying to protect our relationship, but she wouldn’t listen. She became more and more suspicious and this eventually led to a breakdown in communication between us.
Things got so bad that I finally had to tell her the truth. I told her that I was not attracted to her because of her paranoid behaviour therefore I did not want to sleep with her. She was taken aback by my confession and immediately apologized for her behaviour. She promised to trust me and to stop being so suspicious.
Unfortunately, things haven’t gotten better since then. My wife still seems to be suspicious of me and it’s making me feel very uncomfortable. Every time I try to do something nice for her, she questions my motives and accuses me of having an ulterior agenda. It’s making it very difficult for me to be affectionate and open with her.
I understand that my wife is trying to protect herself, but I do wish she would trust me more. Her suspicion is really taking a toll on our marriage and it’s making me feel like she doesn’t believe in me. I feel like I’m constantly being judged and second-guessed by her. It’s starting to take a toll on my self-esteem and it’s making me feel less and less like a real partner in our marriage.
I’ve tried to talk to her about it, but she just gets defensive and shuts down. I don’t know what else to do. I feel like I’m losing her and I’m really scared. All I can do is hope that she eventually starts to trust me again and that we can move past this difficult time in our marriage.