I don’t like Lingerie but my husband is into it!
Just like the above says, it’s itchy and expensive, I am a bit overweight since covid and work stress (been working on it) and feel insecure wearing it on top of that.
I once sent him some photos of me wearing some and the same day caught him looking at photos of other women online, totally killed the mood for me and just reminds me of that incident. It made me feel like I wasn’t special or just some commodity or something I dunno but it made me feel gross in a way that I can’t really explain it.
He asks but I just don’t want to, I have zero motivation and I feel like it’s just commodifying myself for him or something.
Is it wrong for me to see it this way?
A part of me feels like I should just buck up and do it it’s probably no big deaal, but another part of me feels like that would be demoralizing. On the other hand, I don’t want to hold this incident over him forever but I dunno I just can’t get past it, I don’t know what would help either, we’ve talked about it and he’s apologized but said he can’t help but be into it.
I don’t know what to do or how I can sort of mentally fix this if that makes sense. I’d appreciate your thoughts.