So I (37m) work as a service manager for a high volume dealer and am out of the house for 12 hours a day (leave at 6 am and don’t get home until 6pm) 5 days a week.
My wife (33f) gets upset when I get home and after eating dinner want to get a couple of rounds of COD in.
My wife is a SAHM with our 18 month old and thinks it’s absolutely criminal that I want to get some decompress time at the end of the day.
My daughter is still in the “mommy all the time” phase so she prefers to spend more time with my wife than I. Usually when I get home I will eat dinner, do whatever honey-do’s she has for me, and then play for a little.
After I’m done I will join them and spend time with my family which usually is her watching a movie/show and I reading the same book to my daughter 10 times lol.
My wife says that even when I’m chilling with them I spend too much time on my phone. While we are all hanging out if my daughter is asking for my attention I will stop what I’m doing and do whatever she’s asking me to do.
Whenever she wants to go back to mommy I will browse my phone since I usually have absolutely zero interest in what she is watching.
She accuses me of being absent/not present since I don’t focus all my free time on her and the baby. Also side note she is currently 20 weeks pregnant.
Edit: I get up at 5am and usually fall asleep by 930-10pm. My wife and daughter nap through the day so when I’m sleeping they are usually awake for another hour or two.