A woman shared how her husband’s grandmother is always shouting to get her way and insisting she is right, getting under her skin.
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How do you deal with your husband’s elders e.g. grandmother or grandfather?
I choose to ignore because when you try to talk things out or explain your POV, the elder just gets agitated and defensive. It has reached a point where I don’t even bother to say anything anymore.
A brief background. My husband and I live with his parents and his grandparents while waiting for our new place to be ready. It’s been a year of living together.
His grandmother is always nagging and asking questions nonstop. When she’s unhappy at something, she nags at you. Then she will complain to my in-laws. Then she will call her other children who don’t stay at her and complain to them also. And then she will insist we do things her way. If we try to explain our POV, she gets agitated and raises her voice to insist she is right.
She doesn’t understand that sometimes it’s difficult to try and accommodate her. She says she is always right and she is easy to get along with because her friends (from her morning exercise group) say that she is an easygoing person.
She gets upset and complains to everyone if you cook or buy something and you don’t personally go to her and offer her some. But every time you offer her, she declines. Then if you don’t offer, she gets upset. Or if you don’t offer because it’s meant for someone else (e.g. I bought a cake especially for my husband), she will go and eat it behind your back.
My husband also tried to talk to her about some of her behavior but again, she will get agitated and raise her voice at him also.
Just ranting here because I feel like I’m so suffocated having put up with her for over a year already. Sigh.