A boy boy who don’t know how to be accommodating hides behind his parents like it’s a shield to avoid putting effort into his girlfriend but blames her instead. This is a disaster in the making, Lazy boy + needy girl = disaster.
Here is the story:
I need some girlfriend advice. Idk how to please my gf anymore. Idk why she is angry.My gf wants to break up wihh me after 4 years tgt.
She says she can’t live with my double standards. She say I only do things when I want to. Due to the recent spike in covid cases, my parents told me not to go out. My GF asked if we want to go try a new hawker stall. I told her what my parents said and she just exploded. She said she can understand my parent’s concerns but then she says she is angry at me for hiding behind my parents. According to her. I always use my parents as a shield and she can’t stand it.
She thinks it’s rude and unfilial. She said I’m pushing the responsibility to my parents instead of taking account of my own actions. What’s the difference? Why was she angry? What I told her was the truth. Continuing from the last para, I rejected her jio to go out eat and then I told her I spent my whole day at the library. She is angry again. She asks why I am scared of covid still can go lib whole day then cannot hang out with her? What’s the link?
Then she go on to say how I only put in effort when I want to. I am sian of her liao to be honest. I’m sick of all these negative energy. Then she angry at my eating habits. I don’t like too much veggie. I don’t like melted cheese. I don’t like raw fish. I don’t eat spicy and I don’t eat steak (nth religious. I just don’t like the texture). So we never eat Korean food, sushi, pizza, nice salad or went to a fancy steak restaurant.
She is angry because she say I am very mafan. I told her I ate steak when I was travelling in the US with my family. Is she angry??? USA got nth to eat except for steak what. Besides, my family eats steak except for me so I kind of has to join in.Our friends also keep getting in our way. Our common friends tell her to leave me. They said I’m a lousy catch. This has been going on for years. Some of these common friends are my friends to begin with. How to tell them to stay out of it? Recently I found out my own friends jio her out without asking me.
Their reason is that I’m hard to accommodate. Oh well, that can be their opinion. Sigh. My GF parents don’t like me. Her parents think I am shallow and immature. I know she has been facing pressure all these years by people around her to leave me…idk if I can let her go.
I don’t think I am that hard to deal with. Idk Leh. Seems like I only have issues when it comes to her. My other friends, I don’t hear such complaints Leh. According to my GF, she says that’s because no one bothers to tell me because no one cares or at least no one sees hope in me, except for her. But I guess that’s her opinion? Personally, if something doesn’t suit me, I won’t engage in it at all. For example, foods I don’t like. People that upset me..including my own parents. My dad sometimes gets angry at me so I avoid him.
How can I stop the quarrelling? I’m damn sian of this whole situation.