I never thought that I would find myself in the situation I am in now – married to an insecure wife who keeps wanting to have children as a way to try to control me. It all started out as a seemingly normal relationship. We started dating when we were both in our early twenties and I was completely taken by her. She was beautiful, funny, and we shared so much in common.
My wife is constantly bugging me for a third child. I don’t understand why she’s so insistent on having another one when we already have two naughty boys at home that we can barely handle.
She keeps saying that she wants to try for a daughter and that she’s the one who has to suffer the pains of pregnancy not me so why am I not being supportive about this?
I didnt want to tell her but honestly I feel quite offended. It’s true that as men we don’t go through the pains of childbirth but we also contribute and sacrifice our time in taking care of the child what! I know pregnancy is tough so I try as much as I can to make life easier for my wife by doing more housework and pampering her. I also tired leh who come and pamper me??
Plus another child means another mouth to feed and I have to make sure that my pay alone can support all of us since she won’t be able to work. Now our expenses are already quite high so I don’t know if we can cope with one more. Worse still what if try alr still a son? Then how? Keep on trying ah? Why can’t she just be content with our two boys…
I started to realize that my wife was using the idea of having a child to try and control me. She wanted to be able to keep tabs on me and make sure that I never strayed. It was a way for her to have a sense of control over me and our relationship.