The woman that I dated for 6 years between poly through the end of the university has moved to near where my wife and I live. Because we not only have a history but also because our moms are close friends
I took up my ex-girlfriend’s invitation to meet up several nights ago. It soon became apparent that my ex had put on quite a lot of weight since we broke up. Obviously, I didn’t want to say anything, my intention was to help my ex learn where to go, how to get around, things like that. I had a nice night, it was great catching up with her.
No sooner did we get in the car than my wife just puts it out there that my ex is fat. For as much as I love my wife, sometimes she lacks the ability to keep something to herself or simply word it better. I asked my wife to not use that word, she followed up by asking me to admit that my ex was enormous.
I didn’t admit it, I just told her we should just move past it. For about the next 40 minutes, my wife lambasted my ex, from her body to her outfit, called her lazy, overindulgent, so on and so forth. I reminded my wife that just because she strictly follows a strict vegan diet & daily workouts doesn’t mean that everyone else is fair game for ridicule.
My wife didn’t appreciate my reminder and thought that I’m an unfaithful husband for not siding with her.
Here are what netizen thinks:
- Commenting on the bodies of others is off limits. Further making judgements on their life and character because of their bodies is gross. There could be medical reasons for the weight gain, your wife doesn’t know. Good on you for not backing her judgement and toxicity.
- Yeah, those kinds of people are really kinda scary to watch. You know those people who act one way around one set of people and then as soon as the audience change its like a switch has flicked? That’s freaky. Also imagine what she could potentially say behind your back or the backs of others. Yeeesh
- Seriously, this is some next-level stuff right here. It’s one thing to make a few snide comments about someone when you’re insecure (not saying it’s okay at all, but it’s probably something a lot of people have done at some point and would rather not admit); going on a 40 minute tirade of insulting someone she presumably just met is just very concerning and dare I say, a red flag.