I (24M) have been with my girlfriend (20F) for about 2 months + and things have been great so far. I’m very happy whenever I’m with her. However, there’s something that’s been bothering me since a month ago.
Basically, she got to know this guy (let’s call him Adam) from a mutual friend of hers a month ago, and they started talking and texting (not sure how regularly though), and then arranged a meet up to have lunch not long after.
She then informed me a day before their lunch that she was going to meet Adam for lunch at city area and asked if I was okay about. To reassure me, she showed me his instagram profile and holysmoke, he’s honestly a 10/10 in terms of looks LOL.
So I started to get jealous over him and I relayed how I felt to my girlfriend, and she continued to reassure me that they’re just friends and she loves only loves me.
She then asked if she should cancel the lunch session with Adam, to which I said no because I don’t want to be “that controlling boyfriend” and I respect her right to meet anyone she wants.
Fast forward to this Saturday (2 days ago), she suddenly told me that she’s going to study with Adam to prepare for her upcoming exam (exam is tomorrow). The study session lasted for the whole day, from like morning to night.
Again, I got bothered by it and told her about it. She then asked if she should cut her study session short, and of course, i said no because i dont want to be an unreasonable bf. Anyway, I was supposed to meet my girlfriend today to study together, but she told me yesterday that she don’t think it’s a good idea to head out to study today since her exam is tomorrow.
So, I asked her if I am a distracting study partner, and if she had managed to complete her agenda on Sunday, to which she answered yes for both of the questions. She then further explained that she don’t usually go out a day before her exam.
I was still very bothered by it so I told her how I felt about all of this yesterday night. She told me this is how she is.
She treats guys the same way she treats her female friends. The thing is, she was accused previously by her ex-friends and ex-bf that she hung out too frequently with guys alone. However, since her conscience is clear (she only see her male friends as just friends), she is okay with hanging out with them alone. She then proceeded to reassure me that they are really just friends and she loves me so much.
So my question here is, is it normal for me to feel uncomfortable and jealous about this? Or am I just too insecure to deal with this maturely? I dont really know how to approach this issue since this is my first relationship… your help and opinion are greatly appreciated! 🙂