How to deal with rude colleague
Hi everyone, I’m currently feeling quite bothered after being treated so rudely by one of my colleagues. For some context, I’m doing a 3 month internship before Uni. My internship is mostly revolves around project management etc. and sometimes I get handed administrative tasks.
Basically this dude who is a full timer always hands me administrative things to do (printing,chopping etc.) and I realised that this week especially he’s been extremely rude to me whenever I have doubts/errors and I cannot stand it.
He just glares at me and his tone of voice is just plain rude. I mean my point is that if you’re gonna ask someone to do something, I think you should be asking them nicely??
And yes I granted, I’m an intern but all I am asking is just basic respect? I have 2 months left of this internship and he’s definitely going to approach me to do more of these administrative things and I’m completely resenting it..
I just don’t know how to communicate with him. Can anyone provide me with some advice? I don’t want to cause a huge fuss by complaining to my supervisor.
Netizens’ comments
- Next time he’s rude to you, just be an adult and look him in the eye and tell him calmly that there’s no need to use that tone of voice on you to get you to do things. If he persists then escalate him to your boss. Bullies are just cowards who pick targets based on who they tnink cannot/will not stand up for themselves or tell on them.
- Honestly, I would just ask him directly but politely. “Hi, can I ask if I did something wrong which might have offended you in any way? I noticed you have been acting a little differently recently”. If the person is mature enough you’ll get an answer.
More often than not, they will say stuff life “nothing” in a rude tone and continue to treat you this way. In which case I would say “Well, regardless, I hope we can continue to work professionally”.
This is, of course, the more humble and gentle approach. Me personally I would just straight up tell him, and do this at your own risk, “I’m here to work with you, not entertain your tantrums. If you get in the way of my work, be prepared to hear from the boss”.
Regardless, take this as a life lesson OP. This will surely not be your last encounter with rude people. The key point here is if it affects your work and whether he can be professional to put aside his emotions when it comes to work. Most people can’t though, so just be mentally prepared. - “Oh I’d love to help, but today I’m really damn busy sorry!” should suffice. Then smile widely if/while he glares at you.
- Ya you’ll meet this sort wherever you go. Don’t take it personally. In most cases, they are the problem, not you.