A boy recently took to Facebook to voice his frustration as he was left shocked as he current girlfriend requested for a spreadsheet with information on all his ex-girlfriends which include, full name, education, work history, year dated, etc.
Here is the full story.
On the surface, my girlfriend likes to tell me things like: You have so much freedom, I never restrict you unlike normal girlfriends, you can do whatever you like!
In reality, she has deep-seated jealousy, especially of the retroactive sort. We have been together two years and at least on my side, have been 100% faithful thus I honestly do not get it.
Whenever I bring up a story like I went to this place with my friend, or I go meet a friend for lunch, her first question will always be: “Is she your ex?!” If I tell her something nice or sweet, her first response will be “Tell me you never told any of your exes the same thing, if not, what you tell me is meaningless!” If I do anything nice for her, her first reponse will be “Have you done the same for your ex before? If yes, this is meaningless.”
It is really getting very annoying for me and I have spoken with her about this before. She said she does not intend to change and sees no reason why she should. She says if I refuse to answer all these questions, it means I am dishonest and hiding things from her. I told her that’s not it, I just want the past to be in the past and want to focus on her and the present and enjoy time with her, creating memories, while she is constantly spoiling the moment for us. She said no, it is very important that she asks these questions and nothing I say can change her mind. I told her by doing this she is just pushing me away, and she just goes on repeat, asking if I am something to hide.
The other day she also asked for a spreadsheet, giving the full names, education, work history, years dated, and what each ex of mine is currently doing. I of course rejected this ridiculous notion, saying I do not keep in touch with them and don’t even know myself, which is true.
On my end, I am pretty sure I have done nothing to trigger any of this. I never ever bring up ex gfs. At the start of the relationship, she knew both from me and from mutual friends, I have had a few exes and that they were all serious relationships. For her, she had only casual relationships and I am her first serious relationship. Since we started dating, I have been focused on only her. This bad habit of hers is really grating on my nerves and making me question if I really can tolerate this weekly line of questioning from her. Over two years, that’s being subjected to this type of interrogation over a hundred times and my answers to her questions have almost always been “no”.