For context, I’ve had a tough relationship with my dad all my life. I grew up as him almost being and acting like my brother instead of my dad. He never worked and my mom paid all the bills and worked. I tried to tell her to get divorced but she never listened. As a kid I found a lot of shady things about him which cause me to even not want a relationship with him. Even when we lived under the same roof he and I hardly interacted and he never showed interest in being with me so I just ignored him. To add that I was born with a small defect causing me to get a lot of surgeries growing up, to which he never really helped me and at some points just let me to die all day on the couch while I couldn’t move. Even when he had no job he always found excuses to not be home when I had my surgeries. When I went to uni he and my mom split and I had to come back home to help my mom out.
In which I told him I never wanted to see him again and now that my mom and him were no longer a thing, I didn’t want him around me. He backed off for a bit but a few days ago he came in and trashed our home in search of whatever he could take besides what he took the first time he left the house. He left all his trash out and took some valuables my mom had. So I explored and went to where he lived, I called him and he answered.
I asked him why he did what he did, he said it was his home to so he had a right. To which I laughed and said it wasn’t his house because he didn’t pay a single thing but only my mom and its why shes the only owner of it. I asked him to come drop his keys to me. He got angry and said I was an ungrateful girl who couldn’t see what he did for me and my mom and that he had all rights to the house and that he wouldn’t give me his keys.
I again exploded and let out all my years of frustration and anger towards him and towards the end I said that when he dies or gets old, being his only daughter I wont do or feel a single thing for him. I wished him luck and told him to forget he has a daughter for the rest of his life. I then ended the call and left.
I told my mom about it and she agreed with me, but his whole family is calling me out telling me how I could talk to him that way. That I should have more respect towards him being my dad and I owe him for everything including being born. And that no matter what he did I have to forgive him and ask forgiveness.
I brushed it off a little but they keep talking to me about it and some of my moms family also said I was harsh.