I just ended a 2006 days relationship with someone I was planning to propose to. It hurts but I know the correct advice is to move on.
I still remember the day I first saw her, our first date, the first time we held hands. The bits and pieces of us we leave behind in our rooms or belongings. All these memories are now reduced to objects.
How does one move on from this when one gets blindsided by it? When they are told it would be better and healthier for them to move on. When they know their partner is already contemplating on pursuing something with someone else.
Is it my fault that I took too long before proposing? Or that I thought we could go through anything as long as we stand by each other?
My friends tell me to not lose confidence in myself and that she just decided she wanted something else. Sound advice though a tough pill to swallow.
I believe nothing would change her mind anymore but I hope this reaches her since she might come across this.
I would like to wish you the best in life and thank you for all these years. I’ve loved you deeply and might always have a little place in my soul reserved for you. Be happy with whoever you end up with.
061230 JL^2
Here are what netizens think:
- The OP needs to understand some facts. Focus on your career and the women will come. A man who is successful in his career and takes responsibility on his own health and fitness is attractive to women. She decided to pursue someone else because she can’t see any future in you. Nothing about proposal in specific. If she sees a future, she won’t mind waiting for that. And this future is usually the fundamental male achievement like the ones i mentioned. And on the other hand, you are right that a Good girl will go through thick and thin with you. So seeing through her predilections early will save you a massive load of heartbreaks in future. Welcome to singlehood; The state better than being with the wrong person.
- 5 year plus and still nothing changed in the relationship. Planning to propose and actually proposing are 2 different things. You got too comfortable and had been ignoring the signs that’s why you think you are blindsided. The next relationship you will likely propose sooner than you are ready for. So be mindful of that.