So my gf whom I’ve been dating for a couple of months recently told me that she is strongly against having a kid in the future. She doesn’t want to get tied down by having a kid and lose her freedom in doing whatever she wants to do in the future, and she is not fond of kids in the first place. Personally for me I’m not 100% sure if I want a kid, but I always felt like it’s the natural progression of being in a relationship, getting married, and having kids.
Just want to get some views from you all: Is your partner also against having kids? And if so how do you deal with it if you really want one? Does your partner’s mindset change over time with age etc?
Here are what netizens think:
- Accepting someone as themselves is, very important. You can’t expect the person to change. Having children, or getting married is very much personal and a choice. If having children is something that you want, or you’re going to be resentful or your parents will pressure you into having one. Then walk away from this relationship now.
- Do respect her decision and her views of not having kids but also think of your own future too. If you are OK with not having kids then go ahead keep the relationship. If you really really want to have kids in future then I suggest both of you to mutually break up and go on with your respective lives. Marrying her in this case will lead to a difficult marriage life.
- My friend who is against having kids married a guy who wanted a big family. He said he was OK with not having kids. For the first five years, the marriage was OK. Now he just makes bitter kid-related snipes at her in front of us and it becomes extremely uncomfortable to be around the two of them.
- Buay gum don’t marry end up divorce