I’m considering breaking up with my girlfriend over the fact she keeps getting tattooed. For come context my girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years. I’m 28M and she’s 26F.
Okay so about a year ago she expressed interest in getting a tattoo. I’m not a big fan of tattoos, it’s just not something I find particularly attractive on anyone.
She knows my views on them and I told her it’s her body, so she can technically do whatever she wants but I don’t have to like it. After some discussion, she said she’d get something relatively small.
When she came home and showed it to me I was surprisingly okay with it. I would still rather it not be there but it wasn’t nearly as bad as I thought it would be.
Over the year however she’s gotten more, and they’re larger than I’d like them to be. It’s been the cause of many of our fights and it’s affecting me. I love her but I don’t find her as attractive anymore.
Well on Saturday she went to a friend’s house for a small get together, that I was supposed to go to but I made an excuse not to. She didn’t come home until Sunday afternoon and didn’t answer my texts.
When she came home she revealed she got another tattoo and it’s the largest one yet. She absolutely loves it, I obviously hate it.
We fought and I asked her why she didn’t discuss this with me. Arm and leg tattoos are one thing but this is too much for me.
She said she was a little tipsy and told the guy who’s been tattooing her that she wanted to do it but was scared of what I’d think.
He convinced her to get it done, and told her what I think doesn’t matter. She went to the studio he owns with her friends and she got it done.
I asked if she’s noticed we haven’t slept together in months and she said “yeah of course” and I told her why. She seemed hurt and I told her I don’t know if I could get past this last one.
She told me to figure it out and let her know because she doesn’t want to waste her time. We haven’t spoken since. A part of me knows this isn’t salvageable anymore but there’s a small part of me that still loves her and thinks I’d be mean for breaking up with her over this.