Boyfriend (33M) says that I (24F) “emasculated” him by paying for dinner
My boyfriend of 18 months and I went out to dinner yesterday night at a really nice restaurant and my boyfriend literally always pays for everything that I need because he has a good paying job.
Anyways, I wanted to be nice and give back to him since he has always taken care of me, and when the check came while he was in the bathroom I paid for it.
He came back when the waiter brought my card back after I paid and he said “what the hell did you just do?” and I was baffled and confused as to why he was acting aggressive/annoyed.
So I reiterated that I just wanted to do something nice for him since he has always taken care of me, and he shockingly responded by saying “so your idea of being nice is by emasculating me and making me look like an unemployed bum in front of everyone?” which isn’t even true because no one was even paying attention.
It’s been over 24 hours since and he is ignoring me, and made me sleep on the sofa last night. I even tried to sit next to him on the couch this evening and he literally got up and went to our bedroom and closed the door.
I feel so sad and I’m currently on the verge of tears. I didn’t mean to do anything wrong, all I wanted to do was to give back a little since he has treated me so well and yet he’s acting like I hurt him somehow.
What do I need to do to make this situation right between him and I?
Netizens’ comments
- break up run and dont look back. find someone who acts their age
- Ooooooh him sooooo tender.
Dear……don’t you get it? You made him look bad in front of the server and that matters way more than looking petty in front of you. Your opinion of him is moot. - LMAO I imagine him crying “Why, why sweetie how could you pay for dinner? how could you do this to me to Us”
- Uhh, you did nothing wrong. The problem is his own. Seems like he’s got a fragile ego. He’s all about how he appears to others. So, I think you’re getting the real him now. A dramatic man-child…. Please consider moving on.