I (24f) am currently 3 months pregnant with my fiancé, Attaf, m 27. We didn’t plan on having a child just yet as we’ve only been together for less than a year but it happened and here we are.
We live in Singapore but Attaf is originally from Pakistan and he came here for work and that’s how we met.
We will be getting married soon. I am a free thinker so I couldn’t care less if it’s a religious ceremony or not so I am fine with whatever he wants to do, weddings are generally not my thing.
On my birthday this year, he had a surprise for me. I opened the gift box and it had plane tickets, 3 months from then. I was so excited as it meant holiday, but he corrected me. Our company is opening up a branch in Pakistan and they offered him to run it. He said that he will get paid better than working here in Singapore meaning that I can quit my job and we will live a very comfortable life with his salary in Pakistan.
I told him that I wasn’t sure about that. I mentioned that I didn’t speak the language and was scared to give birth in a completely new country, with a language I don’t speak without anyone but him there. But he said not to worry, his family will be there, and his sisters and mother will help me with anything I need and will teach me the language and my way around the country. He mentioned that in Pakistan, I will be surrounded by family as his family will become mine after the wedding.
I told him I wasn’t sure and I need a few days to think about this. He kept trying to talk to me about this but the flight date keeps coming closer and I am still not sure. Frankly speaking, I think I prefer to give birth here where I know the language and my family is here. I admitted I am a bit scared of moving so far away although I do see benefits, especially with his well-paid job offer.
Last night he told me to start sorting out my stuff because we are leaving soon and after the weekend, he will help me with it. Like it was all decided that I was going.
I told him that I still wasn’t sure if it was possible to cancel or rebook my ticket so I have more time to think about this but he said that no and I must come with him because he doesn’t want to leave his pregnant future wife alone. We argued and he called me senseless and selfish for refusing to go with him and blamed me for being indecisive.
When he left, I got a phone call from his sister who told me I was breaking his heart and I should just come with him and everything will sort itself out. But I still am not sure. Everyone in his family tells me I am in the wrong and I don’t know any longer. Why can’t he be more considerate?
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