My office has this reformed/ex-ah lian that I am attracted to and we get along quite well.
She has two kids though and I don’t know what her past is with her ex-husbands or boyfriends or flings and I don’t want to pry more because it might be insensitive.
In what circumstances would you date a single mom?
A divorcee that has her ex-husband have to pay alimony doesn’t seems so bad since he will be forking out the money for the child expenses while you reap the benefits of being a father.
A widow that husband passed away means that she most likely has lots of money from the insurance payout so you get to raise kids without the burden of the expenses haunting you.
But if its neither of those, then you have to raise someone’s else’s child who will never acknowledge you as their father, especially if they are of a certain age and they will just think you are trying to screw their mom.
Here are what netizens think:
- 1st of all, once she re-marries (to you), her ex-husband’s alimony ends automatically and it is (ur) responsibility to raise her kids (as step).2nd will her kid want to call u papa or can only accept uncle at most? Once u married to her, this will be the most impt qn (To her it is whether u accept her kids and to u it has to be whether her kids accept u as their dad). Otherwise u risk her in a sandwitch situation no worse than a girl asking u who would u save first when she and ur mum are drowing at the same time.
- get involved in relationships with single mom in your work place going to the biggest gossip around
- Don’t pangsai where you makan
- are you ok with her showing more or equal love/time to her kids than u? if yes, proceed. (single moms i know almost always prioritize their kids than herself fyi)