My 28 y.o wife and I (30) have been married for about a year now. Except for a few hiccups here and there, we’ve had a very smooth relationship. We support each other and even spend a lot of time doing household chores together.
However, there’s a quirk of hers that I find very annoying. She’s very susceptible to catching a cold and she has a runny nose most of the times she has a cold. And she has this dirty habit of blowing her nose loudly into a napkin wherever she is; even when I’m sitting right beside her and having dinner. I try very hard to act like it’s nothing, but within, I feel disgusted and nauseated.
Yesterday, when she did that, we were having dinner and it almost made me retch. She noticed and asked me if everything was okay. I couldn’t hold it in anymore and I told her that I found this habit of hers repulsive. I told her that she should’ve excused herself and gone to the bathroom. I put it across as delicately as possible, but she still got upset and said that it was “acceptable” to do that and that I shouldn’t fuss over what was simply “a bodily function.” This defensive attitude of hers irked me and I said, perhaps in a somewhat curt tone, that it was impolite and inconsiderate of her to do this in front of others, and that, as a woman, she should be more graceful and polished in her manners. When I said that, she simply stopped eating her meal and went away to the bedroom.
She’s been giving me the silent treatment since then and totally ignoring me. I’m not sure, but I think I might have heard her sobbing when I went to bed in the night. Even today morning, she didn’t eat the breakfast I’d made for her and had cereal instead. I tried to apologize but she pretended like I wasn’t even there. I kind of feel bad for her now. It’s “that” time of the month for her and she gets quite touchy and sensitive during that time. I think I might have been a tad bit harsh with her.
Here is what netizens think:
- What does her being a woman have to do with any of this?
- When I read that, I still had the hopes that it was mentioned because they actually did it together. Like, a fun couples thing. Then, when the nose blowy thing started I still thought it could go two ways, if you really hate the sound or something you can discuss that.
- He’s so wonderful doing the womanly chores with her. Next time she needs to blow her nose she should wipe it on his sleeve. Show him what disgusting actually looks like
- Seriously, it was almost, almost understandable for him to feel grossed out
- My husband has this same reaction to blowing noses – he can’t even blow his own if he’s congested. And unfortunately I have allergies and constantly congested sinuses. And we compromise. Sometimes I step away, or try to be quiet and other times he just plugs his ears.