A netizen shared how because he goes to the gym “quite a bit”, his chest is bigger than his girlfriend and he is wondering if he should break up with her.
Here is the story:
“Hi guys, I need some genuine advice. Am a dude in my early 20s and in a relationship for abt 2 years.
She is kind and I appreciate her character and our chemistry. But there is one thing that is bothering me greatly.
Though I have not seen it, I am super bothered by the fact that my GF’s chest seems smaller (super flat) compared to my chest (I gym quite a bit + naturally big chest ).
I know we should not be superficial and ought to look beyond physical beauty and bodily imperfections but I am afraid that I will not be aroused (or even make her feel inadequate) when we sleep together in the future.
What should I do? Should we talk about it? Should we break up?”
Editor’s note: Dude, are you serious…
Here are what netizens think:
- There always solutions out there such as finding a new one.
- You sponsor her go plastic surgery and upsize lah.
- Wah piang you think what sia
Solutions
It’s important to approach this situation with care and sensitivity. Physical appearance is just one aspect of a person, and it’s not fair to judge someone solely on that basis. Here are some things to consider:
- Reflect on Your Feelings: It’s natural for people to have preferences, but it’s important to understand that attraction goes beyond physical appearance. Take some time to reflect on why this is bothering you so much and if it’s something you can work on internally.
- Communicate Openly: It’s crucial to have open and honest communication in a relationship. If this is bothering you to the point where it’s affecting your relationship, you might consider discussing your feelings with your girlfriend. However, you should be extremely sensitive in your approach and avoid criticizing her. Focus on your feelings rather than her appearance.
- Focus on the Bigger Picture: Remember the qualities that attracted you to her in the first place – her kindness, character, and chemistry. These aspects are often more important for a long-lasting and healthy relationship.
- Consider Self-Reflection: It’s also worth considering why physical appearance plays such a significant role in your attraction. Sometimes, these feelings can be tied to deeper insecurities or societal pressures. Self-reflection can help you understand these feelings better.
- Seek Professional Help: If you find that this issue is causing significant distress, you might consider talking to a therapist or counselor. They can help you work through your feelings and provide guidance on how to approach the situation with your girlfriend.