It’s never easy to take a stand when it comes to a close friend, especially when it comes to money.
My friend and I have been friends since poly, we even went to uni together, and I know he’s not doing too well financially.
But lately, it’s been really hard for me to deal with the fact that he only calls me out to drink. Whenever I suggest a different activity, his response is always the same: “Let’s just go out and have a couple of beers.” I don’t mind going out for a drink, but it’s like that’s all he wants to do and it’s getting really old.
I know my friend is struggling financially, but it’s getting to the point where I’m questioning if that’s the real reason he’s only asking me out to drink. I’ve tried to bring up the subject with him, but he gets defensive and changes the subject. I don’t want to push the issue, but I’m also not sure what to do.
Singapore is not the cheapest place to drink leh. He no money but still want to drink and expects me to pay for him. I know he’s not doing well, and it makes me feel better to know that I’m helping him out (once or twice ok , not everytime).
At first, I was worried about what my friend would think, but he doesn’t seem to mind. In fact, he’s even thanked me for it a few times. I’m not sure if he’s just being polite or if he really appreciates my gesture, but it doesn’t matter. I know that I’m doing the right thing and that’s what matters most.
Of course, I don’t expect to pay for my friend every time we go out. I know that he has money and I’m sure he’s trying to save as much as possible. But when I do pay, it’s usually just for a couple of drinks. I don’t want to be too generous, but I also don’t want him to feel like he’s a burden.
But the thing is, he told me he don’t have money to drink but I spotted him last night in a bar drinking alone with a few girls.
It seems like he is using me to pay for his alcohol and when he has money he does not know how to treat me back.
Simply using me. He just downgraded his “close friend” status to “stranger”. I was simply thinking too much of myself as a friend and more of a tool to him.