I’ve been with my boyfriend now for a year and in all in things are great but in bed, I’m not satisfied.
He struggles to locate my cl-t and stimulate it properly, I have told/shown him at least 3 times the easiest way to locate it yet he still doesn’t follow the instruction.
When it comes to stimulating it, he complains that his wrist hurts. I have shown him many times how I touch(it is not remotely strenuous for me to finish, I can usually after 2 mins)
so I have no idea how he is managing to hurt his wrist. I suggested he needs to find a position he is comfortable in but he still struggled.
Recently he started suggesting ideas that I was not really into (such as mmf 3 ways/face f-ing) , I explained that I wanted my pleasure to be the priority before we start exploring other things
he got annoyed and said that I was only caring about myself when there was lots of other things to enjoy. I told him I agree but having an experience that lessens my chance of finishing such as sleeping with a total stranger that doesn’t know my body, doesn’t appeal much.
We came close to me coming early in the year, on one occasion he made me come almost 3 times but he shifted from where he was and l lost it. It’s as if he decided to give up as he was doing well before.
Last night we had a discussion where he had asked if I came with other people and I did tell him, 4 men have made me come previously which he was surprised by.
I felt frustrated as he mentioned a fantasy of his was for me to finish with another man in a mmf despite me telling him this is impossible for me (I’m 33 and by this point know my body very well).
I told him that I wanted to focus on getting off in a way that I knew I would be able to have and that I know gives me a lot of pleasure but he seems almost reluctant to provide me with this.
I’d like to emphasise I’ve been extremely direct in showing him exactly what I need in the kindest way possible but it’s as if he wants to prioritise a fantasy over how my body actually works. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.