My wife’s been overseas for two months and I’ve found out I’m completely unable to function on my own
I have barely eaten anything more than sandwiches. I’ve done no cleaning besides dishes, laundry, and occasionally sweeping. I feel like such an absolute sack of s-t.
My spouse is definitely the one that pushes us to get chores done – she has higher standards than I do, and isn’t incredibly lazy. I didn’t realize how bad it had gotten, though. I’ve completely reverted to being a f-ing manchild. I get up in the morning with barely enough time to make coffee and leave for work. I haven’t mopped, vacuumed, cleaned the bathroom, anything. I cook maybe once a week, and the rest of the time I eat leftovers or sandwiches (or takeout)
I can make excuses, sure. I leave at 7 every morning and don’t get home till 5:30-6. But that’s just part of being an adult, having a job and still taking care of your life.
I can’t unload this all to her because I’m just being a self pitying piece of s-t who needs to learn some discipline, so I’m putting it all here instead. Thanks yall
Netizens’ comments
- Look bro, no judgment from me, just for the love of god and all that is holy make sure you clean that s-t up before your wife gets home
- So what are you going to do about it?
- Now think about this from her perspective? And imagine there were two of you making all that mess. 2x the mess that by accidental default has been landing on your wife’s shoulders. Respectfully, it doesn’t matter that your behavior is now suddenly affecting you. Your behavior has been affecting her for however long you’ve been married,
I respect the reflecting you’re doing, and I validate your instincts to improve. Start small, don’t get too down on yourself, but take it from a woman- don’t make your partner feel like your mother - Honestly have you ever considered that you haven’t reverted, that you always were one, and that your wife was just doing all of the housework AND mental work of mommying you into ”helping her” with some housework to the point that you thought you actually weren’t one.
Either way, get it together because as much as you’re figuring out that you can’t function without her, she’s probably simultaneously figuring out that her life is easier without you. - Grow the f up dude.