I am earning 5k and already give my parents 500 allowance a month. Yet they request expensive gifts for every festivals and must have fully paid overseas trip every year. If they cant get what they want they will say i am unfilial etc. Both of them are working yet I don’t understand why they treated me like that. Worst part is that it is not possible to sit down and talk to them.
Whenever I explain to them they will ask me to go earn more money and said I am useless for not earning 10k a month like this relatives that relatives. I didn’t take money from them since like JC as I worked part time and my uni fee is paid for as I work very hard for scholarship.
I am in a relationship so I also wanted to save some money for future, is that too much to ask?
Here are what netizens think:
- If they are being unreasonable about their requests/demands, you can always move out and rent a room. Continue giving them an amount you can afford. Then lead your own life. But be prepared to be estranged and to not be included in any inheritance should they decide to cut you off the will.
- It sounds abusive. I think you need to start prioritising yourself. Get your own place if you haven’t already and give them an amount which is normal for your circumstances. If they don’t like this, explain and then stand your ground. Sadly not all parents can stay close as we grow. Some bonsais need to break out of their pot…
- Don’t care bro. Your money your say. Don’t let anyone pressurise you into doing things that you don’t want. Just explain once or twice nicely to them, if they still don’t get it, then just smile and walk away, don’t explain anymore since it shows that they don’t get it.
- Work hard, save up, pursue your dreams, but still do your best to take care of your parents. $500 is ok better than nothing. If anything more strains you, then don’t do it. You need to take care of yourself too. All the best bro