My(29F) husband(28M) wants me to ask him for permission to do things such as hanging out with friends or going out after work with co workers.
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I can understand letting him know but I feel weird having to ask him for permission. He knows how I feel but claims I don’t respect him. He has resorted to giving me the silent treatment.
For more context, we have been together for many years but have only been married for 1 year. I have asked him for permission in the past for things and he has told me no.
Should I just give in and ask him for permission?
tldr: husband wants me to ask him for permission to hang out with friends. He is upset I won’t do it.
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Netizens’ comments
- Does he ask for permission too when he goes out with the boys?
- I mean if you’re okay with giving up your free will and body autonomy, also being considered property instead of a woman who has a title of wife. You will be considered property and treated like it.
- I give you permission to tell your husband to go f himself.
- He doesn’t respect you. Unless he’s your father, and you are actually 8 years old, you shouldn’t ask permission for anything. It is common courtesy to let him know your plans and to ensure he knows where you will be, but asking permission is ridiculous. He’s not your parent or your boss. Never ask permission.
- Screw that!! You are an independent adult, and you don’t need his “permission” for a damned thing. That is controlling behavior. You don’t have to put up with that.
Respect is letting him know that you are going out. Respect is making sure you two don’t have something already on the schedule.
Respect is him respecting your autonomy as an individual!
This would be a deal-breaker for me. He doesn’t own you. - I would tell him where I was going, or who I was hanging out with like “ i’m going out with my girls”. If he said no, I would just tell him I wasn’t asking permission I was just telling you. And leave it at that. Let them not talk to me.