I had been with my girlfriend for nearly two years and thought I had it all figured out. We were happy, and I genuinely thought we had a great relationship.
That changed one night when I denied my girlfriend from going out with her only male friends.
It all started out like any other night. We were both sitting on the couch, watching a movie. We had just finished eating dinner, and I was feeling relaxed and content. All of a sudden, my phone rang. It was my girlfriend’s friend, a guy she had known since poly. He was inviting her out to a party, and she had already agreed to go.
This should have been an easy decision.
She had known this guy for years, and he was a great friend. But something about it made me uneasy. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but I just had a feeling that something wasn’t right.
I asked her why she was so insistent on going out with her only male friends. She told me that she wanted to have some fun and that it would be a great opportunity to catch up with her friends. I told her that I was uncomfortable with her going out with only guys, but she argued that it wasn’t a big deal.
At that moment, I knew that I had to stand my ground. I told her that I was not okay with her going out with her only male friends, and that if she wanted to go, she had to take a female friend with her.
My girlfriend was not happy with my decision. She argued that she didn’t want to take someone else with her, and that she felt like I was being overprotective. I tried to explain to her that I wasn’t trying to be overprotective, I just didn’t feel comfortable with her going out with only guys.
I could tell that she was still upset, but she eventually agreed to my terms. She told me she would take a female friend with her and that she would be home by a certain time.
End up she did not bring any female friends.
Caught
It was about 2 months down that party when I finally caught her. She left her phone on the table while she went to the shower and a message pop up with a preview
“Let’s kiss again”.
It was one of the guys from the party, her poly friend (Joel). I did not confront her, I kept evidence of it and I went out for a drink myself.
I met a Malaysian girl at a bar and I decided to do what she did and had my fair share of “fun”. I don’t even bother hiding it and continued on like this and fool around for months.
She eventually became suspicious and asked why I have been drinking so often and coming back late at night.
I kept quiet and ignored her, she confronted me again and this time she was angry.
I simply answered: “Why not you ask Joel? He also have fun with you. By the way, pack your stuff and get out of my house”.