I started out as a regular guy in class but I performed slightly better and attracted the attention of this girl from China.
After we finished poly, I went army and she went to do her job and we did not meet for years. Long story short, by chance we contacted each other and meet up for a beer.
It did not take long before we fall in love with each other, during that time I was still in the army and I could not afford good things for her. She then said she believed my talents I will make it someday.
and yes she was right, after I ORD I secured a sales job and I was bringing in between 5 to 10k a month from doing sales. I was really hard working and even harass my boss on weekends to go for meetings as if Im the boss.
Soon after she learned of my salary she said “get married now or break up”. I was quite upset with it as I wanted to have a surprise proposal and not be forced to do it. I did a half-hearted proposal and we eventually ROM.
For 8 months in the marriage, she was enjoying herself and always eating the best. There was barely a time we eat at coffee shops or fast food. It is always restaurants.
On the 9th month of the marriage, the company closed down due to my boss wrong investment decisions. I kept it from my wife and started a company on my own.
In the first month, I brought in a profit of $5,000. I am always happy as most people lose money when they just start a business. I told my wife the story and she was upset.
She said that she can no longer enjoy food from restaurants and we have to eat cheap food now. I was upset when she said that as I did not get the encouragement I got when I was a poor army boy.
Marriage vows for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health sounds like BS to me now. I then asked her why did she marry me.
Her response: I marry you for money
She saw my face change and quickly said “love as well”. I was so pissed off I took all her stuff and threw it out of the house. The quarrel was so bad it look like a free show for my neighbours. It might sound like I overreacted then, I admit yes I did overreact. But it was never a sincere proposal I was forced into it and I was young then.
We eventually got divorced. Last I heard, she married a “half-rich” guy then end up the guy also became broke due to the bad market.
This is a true story and PRC upbringing is really a problem. It has been 10 years since the divorce and it still haunts me today.