I’m thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend because he didn’t bother on my 30th birthday.
I (30, F) have been with my boyfriend (29, M) for 8 years now. A few weeks ago I turned 30 and I had a gut feeling he was going to make little to no effort for me like normal.
Normally he has never made effort for any birthday, Christmas or Valentine’s Day. I mostly don’t get a gift or the gifts I have got are ones he has got the day before or day of. I’ve had to plan every single birthday or event, including my 30th.
I asked him a week before if this year he could at least remember to get me a cake and a few balloons this year as after all 30 is a big birthday.
My birthday rolls around and as predicted he had made such a little effort, and the effort he had made wasn’t much at all.
For example he did buy me a 30 balloon but he rushed me to get ready to go to his friends house on the day of my birthday and then asked me to blow my own balloon.
When we was in the car driving home on Sunday evening, I mentioned to him that it had really upset me that he forgot to buy a cake and he started laughing and found it hilarious, I just burst into tears and he couldn’t understand why.
I asked him to leave mine on Monday and since then I haven’t replied to any of his messages. I feel like I am going to really struggle to talk away from this relationship and feel like maybe I’m being a spoiled brat? I just got wanted to feel special on my birthday and I don’t feel I ever will with him.
For context: He has a well paid job since he left university so it is not about money, but I also wouldn’t of minded if we got me a $5 cake from the supermarket.