I’m writing this because I feel like I need to get some things off my chest. I’ve been with my girlfriend for a few months now, and although I care deeply for her,
I’m starting to think that we won’t be able to make it in the long run. The main reason is because she is already a mother.
Doesn’t see himself looking after her kids
I’m not saying that I can’t handle the fact that she has a child. I’m very understanding when it comes to that, and I’m even willing to help out whenever I can. But the thing is, her child is not mine. I’ve grown to care for her daughter like she was my own, but at the end of the day she’s not my responsibility.
Still stays close to her ex-bf
The other issue I have is that my girlfriend is still very close with her ex-boyfriend, who is the father of her daughter. They still talk, and he’s even been over to our place a few times.
I can’t help but feel like I’m competing with him for her attention. It’s not fair for me to feel this way, but I can’t help it.
I also can’t help but feel like I’m constantly being compared to him. He’s obviously been in her life longer than I have, and she knows him better than she knows me.
He seems to understand her better than I do and I’m always second guessing myself when I’m around them.
Would have been better if she doesn’t have extra ‘baggage’
I’m sure that if my girlfriend and I had met under different circumstances, things would be different. But the fact is, we didn’t. She’s already a mother and he’s already in her life.
I’m starting to think that it’s too much for me to handle and that I should move on.
I don’t want to hurt my girlfriend, but I also don’t want to waste any more of my time. I care for her deeply and I want her to be happy, but I just don’t see a future for us together.
I think it’s best if we just stay friends and I move on with my life.