MAN DON’T KNOW IF SHOULD PROPOSE TO GF BECAUSE SHE’S BAD IN BED & ONLY KNOW 1 POSITION

I (30M) and considering asking my GF (28F) to marry me but our bedroom activities is holding me back

Tl;dr: I have been dating my gf for 7 years. Our relationship is good except for what we do in bed. I’m happy otherwise though. Can a marriage survive this?

We’ve been together 7 years and living together for 5. I’m in love with her, she’s great, my best friend, and all that.

But we are super dry in bed though. We have been together for 7 years and she’s initiated with me twice. She wants to get physical though but I have to always be the one to start. She never turns me down if I initiate and complains if we haven’t done it in a bit. But she’ll never initiate.

When we do sleep together, it’s always the same. Just a somewhat painful hj to try to get me in the mood. Then missionary while she uses a toy until she finishes. Then I finish.

I’ve told her I would like for her to initiate with me, try different positions, and she says she’ll do it, but it never happens. I’ve asked if she ever wants to do anything different and she doesn’t.

I’ve been finding lately that I only get physical with her just to keep her from complaining, and I actually have more fun touching myself than letting her touch me.

The thing is…other than this I’m happy. I’m planning on asking her to marry me next month so I guess I’m thinking more long term now. Can a marriage work if I’m unfulfilled in bed?

I should add this isn’t a new issue. This is how it has always been for us.

Netizens’ comments

1. DO NOT MARRY INTO A DEAD BEDROOM. NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!
2. The only person that truly knows whether you will be happy long term is you. Can you have a good life in a dry marriage? Sure. It isn’t the end all, be all. But neither is love. You guys have kids or add more stress (different jobs, more expenses) and the it will get even drier and less frequent. Maybe you should see if she will do therapy with you before you pop the question.
3. You don’t get married to fix a relationship. It’s not the answer. Either work this out prior or move on. You can never get this time back. What if you get married, you realize it didn’t work anything out, you have a kid or two, then you’re dealing with that long term. And how fair is that to the kids? To yourself?