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Friday, February 3, 2023


My fiancé of two years packed up and left while I was in the shower.


This happened about two weeks ago and I have been struggling extremely since then. I’m currently going to therapy for it, but todays been hitting me harder than most and I just need to get it off my chest.

We were in the middle of planning on when/how we wanted to get married and we were in the middle of building a home together that we had already put money into.

We’ve been staying at my parents house and watching over their house just us and our dog while they’ve been away enjoying retirement.

I thought things were going good. I was extremely happy, he always told me how much he loved me, how much he cared for me, how he couldn’t wait to marry me.


We took vacations a lot when we first met and throughout our relationship as much as we could afford to go. My dog became extremely attached to him and the other way around as well. They slept together, constantly were outside together, he was always taking pictures of him and saying he was like his own kid. They loved each other, and we loved each other too.

My whole family adored him and he adored them as well. I have bad social anxiety, so it took me a while to warm up to his family but I didn’t have anything against them. A few months into our relationship he started lying about them and about me, pitting us all against each other and causing problems that never needed to be caused.

He would lie about his mum to me and lie about me to his mum, causing us to thoroughly dislike each other. Things finally came to a head, so his dad and I sat down then his mum and I sat down just to find out he was lying about everything that he had said for the most part, or was stretching it out of context at the very least.

As if he only saw things in black and white and just ran with that, instead of seeing the true intentions or actions. We were supposed to start therapy, and I spent a lot of time looking at appointments, reaching out to therapists that were in our budget and seeing what I could do to get us help.

He never seemed interested in therapy and hated talking about it, so my mistake, I ended up brushing it off thinking that he would fix things on his own and that things would get better.


That was a huge regret. He continued to lie about his family, about me. Continued to put everyone against each other to the point where no one knew the truth anymore. His lies finally came to a head.

So he texted me that he was on his way home from work, so I got in the shower so that he could shower when he got home, he told me after he showered we could sit down and relax for the night and hang out as we always do.

I got out of the shower to all of his stuff packed and in his car. He wouldn’t speak to me or look at me. The only thing he said before he left was “Do you want to exchange Christmas gifts? Yours came in this morning.” I said no.

I haven’t heard anything from him since. I am devastated. I was off work for days, it took me almost two weeks to finally shower, I haven’t eaten since he left and have lost so much weight I couldn’t even stand without someone helping me.

I was in hysterics for days, screaming and crying inconsolably. I don’t understand what happened. I don’t understand how you could tell someone you love them and couldn’t lose them to packing your things and leaving them two hours later with no heads up or explanation.

I truly feel we are made to be together, or at least I had thought so. I’m absolutely devastated. I just needed to get it off of my chest. Thank you.

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I need to hang my head in shame for being an unthinking husband.Sorry for any shirking or grammar issues...
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