I told my mom that I don’t want my gf (23) to move in with me until she has a job.
She will graduate from undergrad soon and has not yet secured a full-time position, however, we have been planning to move in together early next year.
I am 26, make nearly six-figures, and have been in the corporate world for almost 4 years. My mom says I’m being ridiculous and thinks that given my financial situation, I should allow her to live with me and pay the majority of the bills if she can find a part-time job.
My mom also thinks that this will open unnecessary doors to meet other women while I am living away from my girlfriend.
But I feel that I should not be paying for everything until I am personally ready and have taken care of my own debts and responsibilities.
While I make more than enough to cover all necessary expenses, the unnecessary burden created by covering the expenses of someone I am not yet married to is unreasonable in my opinion.
My gf has been contacted by multiple recruiters on LinkedIn, and it has always fell through the cracks due to “I don’t want this job” or her resume not being ready.
I understand that it is stressful and anxiety-inducing to step out into the real world and begin your job search.
To conclude, I have been reminding her that she needs to begin applying to jobs since like forever ago and she has not applied to a single one yet.
Netizens’ comments
It seems like you are in a challenging situation, balancing your financial stability and relationship dynamics. It’s essential to acknowledge that both perspectives have valid points, and the key lies in finding a compromise that aligns with both your financial goals and relationship expectations.
Your concern about taking on unnecessary financial burdens is valid, especially if you have personal financial goals or responsibilities to address. However, your girlfriend’s perspective and the challenges she might be facing in her job search are also crucial to consider. Entering the job market can indeed be stressful, and everyone navigates it differently.
Open and honest communication with your girlfriend about your concerns, expectations, and financial goals is crucial. Understanding each other’s perspectives and finding a middle ground that allows for support without undue strain is essential for a healthy relationship.