Disappointed with my mom
My brother (25) is asking for my mom for her CPF money to sponsor him for studies. Issue is that my mom herself does not have enough even for retirement as she was a housewife for a long time.
She seems reluctant to give but says that she will give it to my brother to “maintain the peace” as my brother will curse at her if she refused.
He was working full time previously but seem to have spent the money on other things so he is unable to afford his school fees now and has never given a single cent to my mom before.
Anyone has any advice? I am worried for her as she seems to be unable to say no and always gives in to my brother whether they are reasonable requests or not.
I feel so helpless as ultimately it is her money and she can do what she wants with it but i’m sorry to say that i don’t see my brother being grateful now or in future.
Netizens’ comments
- Cpf to pay for studies is a loan, your brother will need to pay back cpf with interest.
- Let me clarify because my mom is reaching 55 so she can withdraw some cash which she initially wanted to keep for her own use but i think now she’s going to give some to him
- Your brother is 100% an a-hole Ever since my father passed, my brother and I have decided to not let our mother pay for any of our major expenses, we cover our own school fees and allowance so as to allow my mum to enjoy an earlier retirement. This occurred when I was 23 and my brother was 21. As a 25 year old, your brother shouldn’t be so selfish. Ask him to take a study loan if he wants it so badly.
- What comes out of cpf must go back in later. Who is going to pay for it then? Your mom also needs to set away money for her retirement further down the road. Must think of her future.
- If I’m the father, I will slap the daylights out of your brother. Ungrateful…