My gf is best friend with her ex. We have a long distance relationship with 6h drive apart (She is in KL). I’ve been together with her for 4 months now and I knew in the beginning that they were close friends.
They ventilate and also have a cat together so she has a key to his apartment as she frequently goes there to take care of the cat. At first it didn’t really bugged me that they were friends, but it bugs me that she spends more time with him than me, it bugs me that she seeks comfort when venting to him and not me.
Call me jealous and I am. Of course I think you should have friends in the opposite gender but it’s the part when it’s her ex.. I’ve talked to her about this that it really irritates me and it makes me upset.
She told me that she would never cheat on me and that she can block him cause she doesn’t want to upset me like this ever again and in my mind I’m thinking “am I wrong for wanting her to cancel a 4 year relation with her ex?”. After a two hour long conversation about this about her she asked me for one request/demand of this.. that she still needs to ventilate towards him.. Am I a fool for giving her a chance? I don’t know what to do, she says I’m overthinking and overreacting as she explains to me there’s nothing going on in between those two
Here are what netizens think:
- I don’t date women who are close with their exes. It’s just asking for trouble.
- This right here! Huge red flag for me. I’m not saying it can’t be done, but I don’t date the person who is friends with their ex.
- Ditto. I’m amazed how many women think it’s ok to still chill with their ex and thinking nothing of it, yet lose their effin minds if you talk to a female co-worker (platonically) or a female friend