When I was younger, I always felt like I was on the outside looking in. The girls in my class always seemed to be drawn to the more handsome guys, and I couldn’t seem to make any conversation with them, let alone make them laugh.
I was always too shy to make any jokes or try to be funny, because I was afraid of being judged as a pervert.
It wasn’t until I got to poly that I realized how unfair this double standard was.
I noticed that the more handsome guys in my classes would frequently tell dirty jokes and make crude comments, and for the most part, everyone seemed to find them funny. But if I, as an “ugly guy,” tried to do the same, I was immediately judged as a pervert.
This double standard has been especially apparent in the dating world. I’ve seen handsome guys make sexual innuendos and tell dirty jokes to women and be rewarded with laughter and dates. But if I tried to do the same, it was seen as creepy and uncomfortable. It’s like the world has decided that only good-looking guys are allowed to make sexual jokes, and that the rest of us should remain silent.
This isn’t just unfair, it’s also a bit hypocritical. After all, the same people who judge ugly guys for making dirty jokes often engage in the same behavior themselves. It’s like they’re saying that dirty jokes are okay when they or someone they find attractive makes them, but not okay when someone they don’t find attractive makes them.
I understand that there are certain social norms that need to be respected and that there is a time and a place for dirty jokes. But it’s not fair for the world to judge ugly guys for making them while rewarding handsome guys for doing the same. We all should be allowed to make jokes without fear of being judged or labeled as perverts.
At the end of the day, we’re all human. We all have the same wants, needs, and desires, and we should all be allowed to express ourselves without fear of judgment. We should be able to make jokes and have conversations without worrying about what others will think of us.
Whether you’re an ugly guy or a handsome guy, you should be able to make jokes and express yourself freely without fear of judgment.