Should I ever call the police on my own brother?
The arguments between my brother and dad is starting to get overboard to the point that both of them are about to get physical with each other soon and I dunno what will happen next.
He has been out of job for 2 years, took a course in crypto coding kind of stuff to change jobs, and now cannot be bothered to get a job, everyday just leaching off parents at home, demanding for his meals and stuff, and giving a lot of stress to my parents.
He has other selfish spoilt brat comparison tendencies such as always trying to make sure he orders more expensive food and having more than me each time we go restaurant as a family. My parents has been catering to him the whole time everyday and things havent been going well at home.
Its getting to the point of too much on them and they are really tired of pampering this 37 year old grown ass at home who does not know how to cook his own meal at least, buy food and groceries for the family, boil water, do housework, or to make himself even the least useful for the family. He even steals my dad’s credit card to buy his own games, even though he have his own savings from working 10 years ago. Each time my dad tries to tell him off to go and get a job, they will argue big time. My brother claims hes trying to build up by self learning things at home . But we dont see it. All of us sees that he totally cannot be bothered, everyday eat sleep and play games and has not even applied for a single job. Dad and brother has been having countless of arguments recently
My brother has violent tendencies and cannot control himself when he gets mad, and since I was a kid and he had previously scratched and hit me over things when young, the scar on my chest still remains till now even 20 years later. And just now there was an argument over a small matter, brother got triggered because Dad told him off not to ask stupid questions regarding my aunt being in hospital now. And brother yelled at him first and not even respecting my dad.
No doubt he got triggered but he doesnt even have basic respect for my dad and yelling at him was clearly wrong to begin with. And they argued really badly till the point that my brother had his fist up and looked as though he wanted to punch my dad. It was really scary and emotionally traumatising for me because I really dont want anything to happen. Now dad wants to stop buying lunch, cancel his card to prevent him stealing stuff, and stop tending to him already to teach him a lesson on basic respect, after the latest argument just now.
I told my parents I would really call the police if things goes overboard. Dad was okay with it, but mum strictly refused me to do anything of that sort and told me not to get involved. And that if I call the police it would ruin his currently already ruined state of life forever. But how am I supposed to not get involved if its going to end up punching or even knives next??
I have been really emotionally worn out over this on top of all this work stress that is still ongoing with colleagues and stuff, my workplace future and stuff. I am clinging on to this stressful job so tightly because I cannot afford to lose my job or anything in this family mess as I am the only one supporting the family. I really want to walk out of all this totally.