My mother was never good with money, she’s in her late 50s and has yet to save a single penny.
She’s always had loans and other stupid economical decisions chasing her.
Since the day i moved out and got my own job she calls me regularly with a sob story why she needs my help and of course in the beginning i helped her, it wasn’t large sums and she always manages to pay up, not always on time but she does eventually.
But it gets on my nerves that im some kind of safety fund for her own mistakes, so I’ve started to say no more often than not. I can hear her tone switch completely when i say no and she begins to guilt trip me for it, telling me she won’t afford rent and other necessities. I tell her to ask for help elsewhere but she always brushes it off by saying she feels guilty asking them for it.
I’ve tried speaking to her and offering to manage her economy for her but as soon as i even mention her spending habits she gets angry and worked up. I feel like I cant get anywhere and it’s honestly draining my energy more than i feel like it deserves to.
I obviously wish my own mother the best, even if she doesn’t know how to look after her self but i just can’t take it anymore. By now i know immediately what she wants just by her voice when she calls me.