To the bro who is about to propose and found out he was lid to.
I understand how you feel. Been there. Not a pleasant feeling and never ends well if you talk about it. Personally, for me, I voiced out and things ended (but I wasn’t at the proposal stage yet but we were invested about 3 years as well).
I think what you need to do is evaluate if this is something you can get over (it’s gonna be so damn hard trust me) or is your love for her worth suffering on the inside for the next 30++ years. Sure the thought may disappear every now and then but when it resurfaces unexpectedly – what is your reaction? If you think you can deal with dying on the inside then by all means propose to her.
Trust me this will almost certainly end up in a break up if you do voice it out. I know the virg or whatever is not an issue to you but the lying is. Girls keep such info for a lot of different reasons like image, embarrassment, religion, fear of judgment, etc etc. You WILL NEVER find out the real reason because even if you confront her and she tells you the truth – can you really accept it and trust her? I don’t think so. Good luck and all the best bro.
Here are what netizens think:
- Maybe u can ask her first if theres anything she want to talk to u about. Cuz sometimes , if u dont ask, she may took it as u dont need to know since its her past. But dont be surprised if one day if u got married, suddenly she confess to you about it. U will be stunned like vegetable
- I will advocate about speaking up and being upfront about it. f it break up, that meant that things are never meant to be. There will always be a thorn in the heart. If the basic trust is not there, it will be hard to substain a relationship too.
- It is better to have a short term heart pain rather than a long term internal heart and mind injury.