I found out my GF had hooked up with a guy I knew while we were still in uni (this is a few years back). We were together at the time, so I’m just finding a time to properly break up, don’t need to tell me again.
I’ll probably do it over the weekend since we’re meeting anyway. I found out because I found a voice recording of it on her computer while looking for some uni notes to refer to. Lucky or unlucky that last time phones don’t have much memory so she regularly moves the stuff into her hard drive and I found it I guess. Not sure if she even knows it exists since it sounds like they accidentally pressed it while going too “vigorously”.
The thing I am thinking of is that they had a threesome with one of her friends (who is and was also attached). Her friend is married now, and they have a new family so idk if I should do it. So I don’t know if I should tell them because they seem to be in a good relationship and like they’re doing really well now, unlike me and my gf (soon to be ex).
I also don’t know if I should tell the guy they had the threesome with that he might be the kid’s biological father? Like he was in NS at the time I think, so he should have just graduated; I haven’t kept in contact so I don’t know. I’m not sure if he knew they were attached, but it’s not the point. My gf had an abortion a few months after this incident so I need to ask her about that also.
I just want to get this part over and done with so I can deal with my thoughts and move on soon. I don’t hate the guy but I keep getting the thought of my gf getting railed by him and I want to be able to get past it asap.