My wife has been cheating on me for 2 years, but I don’t know how to confront her about it, and she doesn’t even know that I know.
My wife, the person I thought I knew and trusted more than anyone else in the world, has been cheating on me for two whole years.
At first, I didn’t want to believe it. I thought maybe it was just a rumor or a misunderstanding. But as time went on, the evidence became more and more clear. She would stay out late without telling me where she was going, or she would come home smelling strange.
I wanted to confront her and demand answers, but I was scared. She was my first love, the person I had given my heart and soul to. I didn’t want to believe that she could do this to me, and I didn’t want to lose her. So I’ve stayed silent and pretended like everything was okay, even though it was tearing me up inside.
As the years have gone by, the pain’s only grown worse. I feel like I’m living a lie, and every time she touches me or looks at me, I felt a surge of anger and disgust. I wanted to scream and yell and tell her how much she had hurt me, but I was too afraid to open up and be vulnerable. I was stuck in a cycle of pretending and hiding, and I didn’t know how to break free.
Now, as I sit here and write this, I still haven’t told her that I know about her infidelity. I don’t know if I ever will. Part of me wants to forgive her and try to move on, but the other part of me is filled with resentment and bitterness. I don’t know if our relationship can ever be the same again, and I don’t know if I even want it to be. All I know is that I am hurting, and I don’t know how to heal.
We also have a 13-year old daughter, which is the main reason I haven’t divorced her, but I don’t wanna hurt her, since she’s already gone through a lot at school, so her realizing this would just make it much worse. So for now I will stay with my wife, if I can even call her that at this point.