34/M here working in the civil service. Recently, my boss has been hinting to me that he has plans to recommend me for an overseas posting and if I were to take it up, I’d have a high chance of being promoted when I return. I’m tempted to be honest but this would mean that I’ll be overseas for the next 3 to 4 years. What about my family?
My wife is doing quite well in her job and it would be unfair for her to quit and move over with me. Although our children are still young, the eldest one would be entering Primary 1 in two more years and we were hoping to school her in Singapore. I’ve briefly mentioned it to my wife and I don’t think she’s very keen on me leaving. I don’t mind not taking this up but I’m afraid that by saying no, I’m jeopardising my future opportunities too.
The thought of taking a posting overseas is exciting and terrifying in equal measure. On the one hand, I’m presented with the opportunity to experience a life-changing adventure, gain invaluable work experience, and potentially receive a promotion upon my return. On the other hand, I will be leaving behind my family, friends, and home. It’s a big decision and I’m trying to weigh all the pros and cons.
I’ve been thinking about the impact this could have on my family life. It’s a huge commitment and I need to be honest with myself and with my family about what it will entail. It’s not just me who will be affected – my wife and children will also have to make sacrifices if I take this opportunity.
I’ve been considering the practicalities of living overseas too. I need to think about the cost of living, the language barrier, the job prospects, the cost of travel to and from home, and the cost of health insurance. It’s a lot to consider and I’m not sure I have all the answers yet.
Should I discuss this more seriously with my wife? Should I stay or should I go?