So I’m home for the holidays, and I started working at my usual part-time job. They love having me back and could always use the help since it’s a small retail shop. I love working there, but sometimes the people I encounter are…not great, but that’s a story for another day.
On my second day back, a man gave me his number and left. I wasn’t interested so I wasn’t going to text him, but was definitely flattered since I don’t get that attention very often. The next day (yesterday) he came back in, and asked me why I didn’t text him. At this point, I became VERY uncomfortable, because who the EFF does that? If you give someone your number and they don’t text, DON’T BRING IT UP AGAIN, THEY’RE NOT INTERESTED.
He noticed I got uncomfortable and even said “what’s that look for?” I’m not very confrontational, so I didn’t know how to say I was uninterested and just said I was tired because my cat kept waking me up the night before (which was true).
Not to mention I’m in the middle of working and am scared of angering him. I’m almost scared to go back to work because I don’t want to deal with that again. It’s obvious I wasn’t interested, and by the looks of it, he seems to want to keep pushing. He saw I got visibly uncomfortable and still pushed. I hate it.
I’m nice because I have to be, not because I want to be. Men, stop giving women who are working your numbers. They aren’t interested. And don’t bring it up to them again if they don’t text. It just makes things awkward and uncomfortable for us.
Luckily for the next two weeks, I’m on night shift, so hopefully, he doesn’t figure that out and comes and harasses me, especially because I’ll be alone.
Here are what netizens think:
- I think a lot of men are told to go after what they want, don’t take no for an answer, pursue and chase til you win etc. I don’t know if all of those types realize what they are doing is scary and creepy and just flat out cringey or not, but you’d think they’d have a clue by now.
- Suggest as a precaution you start a diary back to the initial coming in and then subsequent things. It would be nice to say nothing will happen from here but it might . Some people can be obsessive. At the time when it gets to the reporting stage documentation is important from management levels to the authorities
- A lot of Men (me included) don’t get much attention from the opposite sex, so when a women is nice to us it’s hard to guess if the interest is genuine or not.