nsgf broken up
I’m feeling so broken. My boyfriend and I are in the midst of LDR, and we are really close to finishing LDR. He is currently serving NS, in OCS where he took up some responsibilities.
He broke up with me because he feels numb, and he does not see a future with us anymore. But deep down, I know that he still loves me, but has a lot on his plate, and is hard to deal with me as LDR requires more words of affirmation to feel the reassurance. I have honestly been the best NSGF as I could, always buying him gifts whenever he has a special occasion in NS, and my unwavering love and support towards whatever he does/ accomplished in NS. All i needed in this LDR was words of affirmation and the sign of affections, which was given all the way until he entered OCS. He blurted everything to me saying it is draining for him that i asked him if he still loves me. But i am a women after all, i have my own insecurities, which is nothing of a big issue if he just shows me the same affection. This wouldn’t be an issue at all if i were in singapore.
What went wrong in the relationship was he not being able to fully express his feelings, not because I did not allow him to. He was scared of feeling hurt and do not want to fight anymore. I’m always giving him the reassurance that it is not his fault that things happened in the relationship, but him being an over thinker, he blames it all on himself.
Now he sent me a break up text, and said that nothing is going to change his mind about breaking up. I don’t need more criticism and it is already tough for me, but I Know our relationship can be worked out, and this is just an issue that is fixable. But i’m worried that it’s because of OCS, he is just tired from everything and even giving our relationship another shot in this case.
I know this relationship can still be fixed, but i’m not sure on how to approach him. I have yet to agree with the breakup. Would love for genuine advice and no criticism as i’m already on desperate ends.
What should i do…