I’m 35 , male, married with 2 kids.
I met my wife in school when I was 22 and she was 20.
We dated for 7 years before tying the knot.
Throughout our relationship, I have always thought of her as my future partner because she is what society consider to be an ideal girl. She is smart, pretty, loving, kids-loving etc.
2 years ago, I started to have some feelings about my colleague. I feel extremely guilty about it but I cannot control it.
While my wife is great in the eyes of others, I’m lacking this excitement in life. Our conversations are very superficial e.g. what the kids eat, how the kids behave. We don’t delve into topics about my emotions and feelings.
This colleague of mine is a stunner imo (my friends and colleagues think my wife is way prettier though). We can chat for hours and talk about anything and everything. She feels like my soulmate.
I haven’t cheated physically but I feel like I am already cheating emotionally.
I don’t know if I love my wife romantically anymore, or love her as a friend or whether I have even loved her at all.
What should I do?
Here are what netizens think:
- 情变了亲情。Normal Alpha male behaviour. Whatever you decide to do, let your conscience guide you but whatever you finally do, be aware that at the end of the day, only your wife whom you have pledged to be with in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, will be beside you to see you through your difficulties.
- Dude, imagine this life with this person and fast forward 10 years, IT WILL BE THE SAME. If your wife is prettier and you still grew out of her, then what chance does this girl have? If you want to talk feelings, trying taking your wife out for a romantic date where you guys aren’t in a hurry and talk about life. And do this everyday, spend 15 min in bed talking about aspirations and fears, BE VULNERABLE to each other. Redecorate a room you’ve lived in, not discard it for one that looks neat only because it’s empty.
- You should go buy a ps5 and wait for the new spiderman game