I accidentally heard my 18yo son and his buddy having intercourse. I didn’t even know he was gay.
So my son’s 18 and graduated this year I’m super proud of him and he’s working at a good job and he plans to move out soon which honestly is bittersweet.
Well anyway I just got home from work about an hour ago and my son and his best friend let’s call him Josh came in shortly after and said hi and chilled with me for a bit then went to his room to hang out like always.
His mom is working late tonight so it was gonna be just us and Josh now I guess but that’s fine. I hung out watching TV for a while maybe 30 mins and started getting hungry so I walked upstairs to see if the boys wanted delivery since I was gonna order some.
Well as I was about to open the door I could hear, well… “noises”. Very obvious grunting noises from my son’s room.
I stood there for a second listening out of shock. I’m not upset or mad, I just honestly had no idea. I know he’s never had a girlfriend at least not one I know about but I always just kind of assumed he was straight I guess just because it’s more common? I don’t know I just never really thought about it.
Honestly if anything I’m kind of hurt that if he’s actually into guys, he never felt comfortable enough to talk to me about it.
I know I’m not an expert on this type of stuff but he could’ve talked to me about it or his mom. We both love him so much no matter who he is. After coming to my senses I got in my car and drove out to get dinner and clear my head. I sent him a text saying,
“Hey son I just headed out to get a bite to eat and I’ll be gone for a couple of hours. If you or Josh need anything I’ll be down the road.
By the way, if I never mentioned it before I think Josh is a great guy and he’s welcome in our house any time. If there’s ever anything you want to talk about I’m here. Love you.”
He hasn’t responded yet since they might still be busy which as his dad I definitely don’t need details about that or I embarrassed the crap out of him since subtlety isn’t really my strong suit.
The whole thing is definitely kind of weird and awkward but he’s my son and I love him and I want him to feel like he can talk to me about anything.