Found out my wife is cheating on me.
This is probably going to be long read. I’m not looking for advice or anything, I just need to tell “someone”.
I will start by saying I am not 100% faultless in this, I could have been better or done more.
Here is some of the back story/info that is important. My wife and myself are in the mid-thirties. I’m a avid gamer and she’s in the gaming industry. We met and dated for many years and got married 2 years ago. Everything is perfect for us all along. Here is my ultimate mistake that lead to our undoing, I’m always away in training and at times overseas for my gaming and somehow neglected my wife, but being together for so many years I thought she will understand and accept my passion.
Last December, her side of the family scheduled a Christmas get together. My wife hinted me that there was something wrong with our relationship and I told her that we should works best for everyone else and I didn’t fight it (a great regret of mine knowing what I know now).
After that day my wife slowly got more and more distant from me. We had good sexual chemistry but It starts getting lesser, when I asked what was going on she said she is really struggling with our relationship this year and wasn’t feeling sexual. I completely understood and never pressured her or pressed it any further. Over the next few months all that dried up as well. She stopped saying that she loves me, even after I would say it to her first.
She just became extremely distant, and anytime I would initiate a serious conversation about what’s going on between us she would say it’s just her trying to work through her own personal issues. I would offer her any and all support I could give but she wouldn’t open up to me. I would beg her to talk to me but she just said she couldn’t/wouldn’t.
Recently it felt like we were just roommates. We barely talked, any talking we did daily was awkward surface level small talk. I would ask her how her day was, how work was and got basically 1 word answers. Maybe once a week I would ask her to sit with me and have a serious talk but apparently it doesn’t works at all.
I can’t help but keep thinking of her hint last year and start engaging a PI to check on my wife. During this time I found out she was getting close with a male colleague and would meet up often but discreetly like taking leaves together. At times I would pretend to be busy or away for my gaming and she will take these opportunities to stay over at the colleague’s place at the Eastern part of the island. With all these overwhelming evidences given to me I’m greatly saddened and deeply shocked. Knowing my beloved wife are having an affair and making me a cuckold, I can’t help but feels if I should expose their relationship and confront the colleague at their workplace but that will also means the end of my marriage too. I loves my wife and I don’t want to divorce her.
I know that was long but I needed to get it out, if you are still here reading this I thank you for your time.