I’m starting to think my twin brother might be an idiot and that doesn’t bode well for me (he invited me on his honeymoon, more details in my post)
My (30f) twin brother (30m) invited both me and our mom (55f) on his upcoming honeymoon. The cruise they are taking has packages and his logic was that since the cost to add 2 more guests and upgrade to a cabin with more rooms is negligible it made sense.
He thought we should come since it’s way cheaper than a regular vacation.
He did not understand why it was a bad idea even after I tried explaining that his honeymoon is for him and his fiancée and not a family vacation. Especially on a cruise ship and shares cabin where there is no escape or privacy. I asked him what he would think if his fiancée’s parents and brother were to tag along but he completely missed the point and said they have traveled a lot before and don’t need a cheap vacation.
His fiancée was so upset and they have been fighting about this. In her defence this isn’t the only issue. When they got engaged my brother suggested that they let my mom plan the whole wedding so they could avoid the stress and time it takes. They had an argument about that too before my brother relented. When my cousin got pregnant and my brother and his fiancée were talking about hypothetical names for their kids my brother said they should ask my mom because she has good ideas to pick a name. That was also an argument. There was another argument when he wanted to take mom house shopping to get her input.
This is the first time I have been dragged into it. Before I just heard about it from my brother and I never said anything or got involved. But this time I told him that while it was nice of him to think about us, the honeymoon is not the the time so I’m not going.
He countered that my mom is on board with going because of course she is. She was on board with the other suggestions like her planning the wedding. Unlike the other times he isn’t backing down and his fiancée is at the end of her rope. I have never commented on the previous issues before when he told me about them but this time I said he needs to be independent from mom or his fiancée will reach a breaking point. He’s still trying to convince me to come with him, he doesn’t get it.
I don’t know if he’s just more of an idiot than I thought but we are twins so I don’t know what that means for me. I do want to travel one day (couldn’t afford it when I was in university and then covid happened and I work in a hospital). But not sharing a cabin with my brother on his honeymoon.
I told him I’m not coming and besides the one comment about him being independent from