I cannot believe I am writing this from a clinic waiting room right now. I am so angry I can feel my blood vessels popping. If I could reach across the table and slap the “logic” out of my boyfriend’s brain, I would do it in a heartbeat.
For the past six months, this guy has been playing a dangerous game with my life. Every time I ask him to go buy protection or suggest we be more careful, he gives me this super confident, “I know everything” look. He legit told me, “Babe, relax lah. You think so easy to get pregnant ah? People try for years also cannot. Statistics say only like 20% chance every month. We are young, we are healthy, pull-out method is 99% safe one.”
I was the stupid one for listening to him. I was the one who let him convince me that because my cycle is “a bit irregular,” I’m basically infertile. He even had the cheek to say, “Ai-yah, my pull-out game is legendary, trust me.”
Trust you? TRUST YOU?! Now look at us.
I missed my period for two weeks. I thought maybe it was just stress from work or the hot weather. But this morning, I took two tests. Both turned up with two solid, bright red lines faster than I could even finish peeing. My heart literally dropped to my toes. When I showed him the tests, you know what his reaction was? He stared at it for five minutes and asked, “Are you sure the test is not expired? Maybe it’s a false positive?”
False positive your head lah! Two different brands, same result.
Suddenly all his “statistics” and “legendary pull-out game” vanished into thin air. Now he’s sitting here looking like a blur sotong, muttering about how he’s not ready to be a father and how we haven’t even applied for BTO yet. Like, HELLO? You think I am ready? I’m the one who has to deal with the morning sickness and the body changes while you just sit there and worry about your savings account!
I am so done with men and their “trust me” logic. If a guy tells you it’s “not so easy” to get pregnant, he is a liar and a fool. Nature doesn’t care about your statistics or your confidence. It only takes one time, one mistake, and your whole life plan gets thrown out the window.
Now I have to make the hardest decision of my life and he’s just sitting there googling “accuracy of pregnancy tests.” I cannot even. Please, girls, if you’re reading this: NEVER, ever let a man talk you out of protection. Unless he has a medical degree or a vasectomy, do not believe a single word that comes out of his mouth.
Kena already then know. Now I’m the one facing the music while he’s still in denial. I really want to throw him into the Kallang River. 🙄