Valentine’s day is here and for those that are bummed out about being single, I’m here as a happily attached person to tell you, it’s not worth it being too sad about this.
I know of a couple who just celebrated their first anniversary this month and the bf is actively hiding impt problematic stuff from his gf.
She has no clue about this because he’s a very experienced liar that knows how to play the sunk cost fallacy game. She also doesn’t know how little she’s getting out of a partner (in terms of interest and effort; I’m not talking about money btw) just bcos he is less attracted to her physically, compared to his ex.
People showing their happy moments online doesn’t mean they’re happy
Just because you see people’s romantic couple stuff online, doesn’t mean that their relationship is an enviable one to be in.
We are all flawed people finding a way to get what we want in this world. The reality is that even if you’re a mature person that trusts your partner, it doesn’t mean they won’t take advantage of you.
You could very well be taken on a ride by a person who knows how to play the relationship game well. Your maturity might be exploited because you are healthy enough not to overthink/second guess your partner.
So love yourself a little more, and don’t beat yourself up if you are single.
Its okay to take your time to find the right one
Regardless of your gender, trust your gut and don’t despair just cos you haven’t found “the one”. Aiming for perfection is unrealistic but that doesn’t mean you should settle for anything less than you deserve.
It’s also important to pay attention to what’s not being said instead of letting someone’s sweet talk/behaviour deceive you from seeing what type of person he/she actually is.
The last thing you wanna be, is taken for a fool in a relationship that you are going to be giving so much to.