Am i calculative with my mum?
I give my mum $500 every month and on top of that, whenever i order grab food, i will ask if she wants also. I don’t eat at home and even if i do it’s max one or two meals per month.
On top of this she still ask me to increase the monthly allowance by $100-$200.
Today she asked me to change yen with her cause im going japan, at 90+ rate when the current yen rate is already at 110+ cause she has about 50k yen with her. When i rejected, she said i was very calculative with her.
She’s semi retired about 58yo but is still looking for a job.
I’m saving up for my HDB and reno that’s coming in 5 years time and don’t intend to let her fork out money or borrow from her.
I’m also trying to save up for a banquet when i didnt want one initially cause my brother couldn’t give her a proper one due to some reasons and she was disappointed.
If i’m not saving up of course I wouldn’t mind giving her that extra money. But i just feel that every cent counts now cause of the rising cost for banquet and renovation etc.
Netizens’ comments
- *borrow from her
And no, you’re not. A lot of mothers tend to act up at this age. Entirely anecdotal, around 70% of my friends and acquaintances are going through varying degrees of this. Most have it worse than you do.
I will tell you how to trigger her for sure. Ask her what she gave her own mother HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA - However, as for your latest dispute with her, 50k yen is 450 ish SGD. I would just exchange give her 500 SGD and call it a day. It’s not a hill worth dying on.
- Move out lo. Take your $500 and contribute it towards your rent. Save yourself a lot of headache
- Flip the tables – why don’t she change with you at spot rate? Ask her don’t be calculative. My parent will just give me the foreign currency, but I prefer to pay them back, if I use it